Think You Know Yourself? Tink Again!

 

If you had only 5 seconds to live and you could only utter a single sentence to inspire a child, what would it be?  Here’s mine:  try everything that sparks your curiosity.  Despite surging real estate prices, the best investments are still the ones we make in ourselves.  We like to assure ourselves that we have it all figured out.  General life experience makes us aware of our skills, weaknesses, passions, and flaws, yet why do so many of us fail to use these facts to dictate our decisions.  But perhaps your self-concept is vaguer than you think.  What about the opportunities that interest you but never conveniently presented themselves to you?  Think of all the hobbies, career options, activities, or passions that piqued your interest and you just never bothered to seek them out just because… well just because.  For many, once they formulate a vague idea of their self-concept, they will use this as a basis to find their place in the World.  The result is mediocre – a limited life.  At best, a limited self-concept can only result in a limited life.

 

A key component to living a fulfilled life is having that awareness of who you truly are.  It’s impossible to live life to the fullest without answering this simple, yet thought provoking question.  Many of us don’t even take the time to consider the fact that we’re not truly aware of who we are.  Instead, we turn to societal ideals and how we fit into the World to describe ourselves.  Common questions to ask a complete stranger upon first meeting are what do you do for a living?  Whereabouts do you live?  Are you married?  Do you have a family?  We think this would provide us with a general overview of who the person truly is… but it doesn’t always.

 

The stranger could be working a job they hate, live in a crime ridden neighborhood out of necessity, have a spouse they don’t love, and have kids that hate their guts.  Now this is obviously an extreme example, and if this is you, I’m glad you’re reading this.  Yet it illustrates that these general details tell us more about how this person has adapted to the World… and not if they successfully adapted their true nature to the World.

 

True success can be represented as a bridge you’ve built between your true nature and the role you play in the World.  The sturdier this bridge the more successful you are.  And even if your bridge seems as sturdy as can be, it still requires daily maintenance to prevent it from collapsing.  As life’s seasons change, so do the dynamics of the bridge.  So take a moment and ask yourself what your bridge looks like?  Is it as sturdy as can be?  How can you increase the support of your bridge?  Commit to getting to know yourself by following these 3 simple steps:

 

  1. Discover your passions, strengths and weaknesses by trying everything you are mildly interested in.
  2. Take your findings and zero in on the things that you are most skilled and passionate about.
  3. Out of all these items pick one with the highest probable outcome of providing you with the financial results you desire and pursue that as a career. But don’t let the remaining items go to waste.  Pursue them as hobbies or even part-time businesses… who knows what the future will hold?

 

It may come to you as a surprise, but the most undetected global disease isn’t measles, SARS, or swine flu – it’s Desire Associated Identity (DAI).  Meaning we falsely attribute who we are to what we desire.  In other words, falling victim to the false belief that you are what you desire.  Now our very existence depends on human desire – the desire for a child or simply for sexual gratification is what ultimately moves the human race forward.  However, those who fall victim to DAI forfeit their true selves in exchange for achieving their short-lived desires.  We’re quick to label segments of people who stand out from the crowd, yet the general population should be diagnosed with DAI.

 

Feeling mentally drained is the result of living an unfulfilled life, which often increases the likelihood that one will succumb to their desires and build a routine around these desires as a means of escape.  How often have you heard someone say my job is turning me into an alcoholic?  To escape the harsh reality that accompanies an unfulfilled life, one is tempted to seek out crutches that help them cope with an unfulfilled life.  Where instead, one should focus on building a life without escape routes.

 

The path to success looks like a scribbled line because to truly know oneself, we need to be cognizant of our strengths and weaknesses.  And the only way to get there is to welcome life’s plot twists.  So dare to succeed, but more importantly dare to fail.  Dare to abandon your false identity you’ve been lured into upholding and face the challenges that prevent you from building the sturdiest bridge possible.  Your time is limited; so get out there and fail as badly as possible so you can eventually succeed.  Growth has nothing to do with time… so experience life to the fullest and always expand your self-concept.

Sincerely,

DCP

 Takeaways: 

 

  • “At best, a limited self-concept can only result in a limited life.”
  • How to find yourself:
    • Discover your passions, strengths and weaknesses by trying everything you are mildly interested in.
    • Take your findings and zero in on the things that you are most skilled and passionate about.

Out of all these items pick one with the highest probable outcome of providing you with the financial results you desire and pursue that as a career.  But don’t let the remaining items go to waste.  Pursue them as hobbies or even part-time businesses… who knows what the future will hold?

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